My girlfriend constantly nags me to do more chores around the house (”Do the dishes!”, “Wash the dogs!”, “Blah, Blah, Blah!”). I constantly nag her for sex (”Babe, I’m horny!”). Who would have thought that the two activities were actually related? Apparently, when men participate in domestic tasks like sweeping the floor, women feel much more sexy and find the man much more attractive! This is according to an article on CNN.com which states,

“…more equitable division of household duties may lead to more intimacy in the bedroom….When a man does housework, it feels to the woman like an expression of caring and concern, which then physically reduces her stress…A guy can be completely stressed out and want to have sex to burn it off, but women are not wired like that…Instead, he says, women need to feel relaxed in order to feel sexy — and it’s hard to unwind when there are chores to be done and a husband who’s oblivious to them.”

Wow! If my girlfriend would have told me this years ago, I’d be a lean mean cleaning sex machine! But to the ladies out there, if you want your man to clean more, but don’t necessarily want to play flog the dolphin with him, here are some tips from Joshua Coleman, author of “Lazy Husband”:

• Don’t be a gatekeeper: Partners who aren’t micromanaged tend to contribute more.
• Don’t send mixed messages: A woman may telegraph ambivalence by asking her partner to help, but then tell him he’s doing the task all wrong. Or she may not ask him to help at all, then become angry that she has to do everything herself.
• Be assertive: Insist on an equitable division of labor if he won’t take initiative. Say something like, “You agreed if I cooked, that you’d clean. You haven’t done that yet, so can you do it now or tell me when you will?” Or, “I feel I have too much on my shoulders. What can you agree to do?”
• Communicate productively: “You’re never going to get your husband to do more if you walk around broadcasting blame and shame,” Coleman says. Approach your partner with affection, keep the conversation brief and to the point, and use language that doesn’t veer toward criticism.

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